4 Pillars of an Unshakable Relationship with God
My undeniable and unshakable relationship with God is the only thing that gets me through my day. It is the only thing that keeps me going in my current season and in our family’s current state of uncertainty. People call us crazy. No one understands. (If you are interested in more of our story, click here). But, it doesn’t matter. People thought the apostles were crazy and Christ was unaccepted in his hometown (Mark 6:3).
Every time we seek validation or comfort outside of Him, it only serves to stir up the waves. Seeking validation outside of Him merely causes us to waiver in what we know is right. But, when we come back to Him, the peace He offers is deep. It is abiding. It is true. It is guilt free. It doesn’t matter if nothing makes sense in the world’s eyes, He is asking for more. He is asking for everything. He is asking for our widow’s mite (Mark 12:41-44), our 5 loaves and 2 fish so that he can multiply them (John 6:8). He is asking for complete and total faith, trust and abandon to divine providence.
It doesn’t matter if it looks like what God is asking from you sounds crazy, what matters is whether or not your relationship with Him is strong enough to believe that He can make miracles with your littleness.
The Pillars of an Unshakable Relationship with God
Everyone who listens to these words of mine and acts on them will be like a wise man who built his house on rock. The rain fell, the floods came, and the winds blew and buffeted the house. But it did not collapse; it had been set solidly on rock. And everyone who listens to these words of mine but does not act on them will be like a fool who built his house on sand. The rain fell, the floods came, and the winds blew and buffeted the house. And it collapsed and was completely ruined. – Matthew 7:24-27
1 – Naked Honesty
I know it sounds crazy but YES, I did mean to use the word naked. In Genesis, Adam and Eve walked with Him in the garden (Genesis 3:8) and they were “naked and unashamed” (Genesis 2:25). We need to get back to this state of ultimate and complete vulnerability with God.
- We need to be unconcerned about how we appear before the Lord.
They hid because they were afraid – Genesis 3:10.
- We need not to be concerned about how others appear.
In the garden Adam and Eve had to cover themselves because now selfishness and the potential for lust had entered their hearts. Along with this came the “knowledge of good and evil” – at least believing that we have the knowledge – and , therefore, judgmentalism.
How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove that splinter from your eye,’ while the wooden beam is in your eye? – Matthew 7:4
- We need to return to the original relationship with God.
When Adam and Eve were “kicked out of the garden” they weren’t as much kicked out of a physical PLACE as they were kicked out of a RELATIONSHIP.
When Christ came, He restored the ability for right and intimate relationship with God. In this relationship there is no hiding, there is no shame. Everything can and should be be in the light (John 3:19). In this relationship everything points to Him, and nothing can distract us from Him. We are living in love, focusing on the beauty and joyful reception of the gift of creation.
- Called to be SEEN – The Impact of Recognizing You are Loved
- What is Humility? – How to See Yourself as God Sees You
- 2 Prayers to keep us Humble
2 – Recognize your worth
For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son... – John 3:16
All of these pillars are very much interdependent. We can only be comfortable in our original “nakedness” if we are ready to offer Him our whole selves, knowing that we have no greater purpose or value. Do you KNOW that you are truly BEAUTIFUL??? That you are beloved? That you were and are put on this earth to touch other people’s lives in amazing ways that you don’t even know about? That even amidst all your flaws, you are completely loveable? That you are worth being with and being around? That you are specifically created “perfect for your purpose”? You have meaning. You are worth pursuing. You are worth healing. No matter your past, you are always welcome and wanted? No matter how far away you think you are, you can always come back?
Neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor present things, nor future things, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature will be able to separate us from the love of God. – Romans 8:38
- 2 Keys to Embracing who you Are
- Does God Really Love Me?
- How to See Yourself as God Sees You
- Invite God into your Mess
3 – Recognize your need
Recognizing our need for God sounds counter-intuitive, especially right after the last section, but notice that nowhere did we say you were worthy or deserving of the love of God… Nothing makes Him love you, except that He WANTS to! That’s what makes it so beautiful, so genuine, so life giving, so joyful.
You are broken.
EVERYONE IS BROKEN!!!!
You are weak. It isn’t shameful to recognize that you can’t do it all yourself, to recognize that you need strength, that you make mistakes, that you are imperfect, that life isn’t a one man show.
This recognition isn’t shameful, it is HONEST!!!
It is freeing, freeing from the bonds of having to put on a show of perfection. If we don’t have to be perfect it is easier to give ourselves grace and pick ourselves back up when we fall. It is precisely in our need that we become the most beautiful.
4 – Communication
The forth and absolutely critical pillar of your unshakable relationship with God is a strong prayer life. It is CRUCIAL to figure out how to pray and what is your prayer style. Also, how God speaks to you and whether or not you are ready to hear Him. It is critical to become comfortable in His presence and to spend time with Him. It may take some time to build up a strong prayer life but it is by far the most valuable thing you can do in your life if you desire deep and lasting happiness.
Is an Unshakable Relationship with God really possible?
I have competed well; I have finished the race; I have kept the faith. – 2 Timothy 4:7
It is TOTALLY POSSIBLE!!!! But this doesn’t literally mean we will not “shake”. No matter how perfect or how strong our relationship is, we will always be human and we will always falter. Even Adam and Eve fell before they were cursed. There will be days your priorities get out of line, or you find Prayer too daunting, or you don’t listen as well as you know you should, but it isn’t our mistakes that matter. He is a loving father who gives us scads of “second chances“.
The question is, will you take them?
Comment below: Where is He asking you to grow today? Which pillar is the strongest for you? Which is the weakest?