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I saw a post called “Is self-care selfish?” the other day. Of course, the conclusion was “Absolutely not. You have to take care of yourself to take care of everyone else. You deserve this. You can’t pour from an empty cup. etc” and I agree with this statement, but it’s not that simple.

To truly answer this question we have to ask, what really qualifies as self-care? Have you ever considered the fact that true self-care might be something you don’t necessarily enjoy doing?

It is worth it to distinguish between healthy self-care and other pastimes we enjoy that we like to classify as self-care in order to justify doing them. These are the pastimes that make us ask the question “Is self-care selfish?” in the first place. Obviously, someone’s conscience is pricked, or the question wouldn’t even be out there.

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Quiet and Listening to God, Relationship with God, Self Care

Called to Quiet – Why and How to Overcome a Fear of Silence

As a pregnant mother of four, my days seem to be getting louder and louder with the spaces of quiet growing fewer and farther between…. the prospects of future quiet growing bleaker still. I have never in my life craved quiet more than I do now. At least once a day I have to hide away in an attempt to escape the noise. I know many mothers can relate to this.  But, this isn’t a problem only mothers face.

A lack of silence seems to plague all of modern society.

According to the Scientific American, the average modern household has three or more televisions and Americans are typically exposed to at least 6 hours of TV per day. It has become the centerpiece of modern homes and the almost indispensable background to the majority of activities including meals and household chores, not to mention nearly the entirety of people’s free time when in their homes. Other screens seem to occupy the rest of the time. If not screens, then busyness. Constant running here and there, never enough time to even recognize the fact that there is no longer any space for quiet in our lives.

Self Care

Called to be Filled – True “Me Time”

We love because he first loved us.  ~ 1 John 4:19

I have been struggling a lot lately with being so needed. Anyone who is a mother knows this constant feeling all too well. You start to feel like your worth is purely utilitarian, like you don’t matter except when someone needs something – which they constantly do.  There is no such thing as free time, or “Me time”, and when there is, you pretty much always spend it doing something necessary (for example, laundry and dishes without kids under my feet). With four littles now (and one on the way), the perfectionist side of me is ashamed to admit that I am completely at the end of my rope.

The thing is, it’s always when I get to the end of my rope that God teaches me