I’ve often heard of the 4 “Pillars of Self-Care” (also called “Levels of the Self”/ “Aspects of Personhood” / “Facets of Wellness”) described as 4 legs on a table – you know, where if one of the legs is weak, the table is unstable? It’s an analogy I have loved and ascribed to for a long time, however, lately I have started to like to think of them more as passengers in a car… or maybe even more accurately, a 4 person tandem bicycle.
Did you know that your single season is the most important season of your life? That how you live it has the potential to set you up for a future of hope, clarity, authenticity, courage, and excellence, or frustration, confusion, difficulty, depression, and hardship in every other season thereafter? Most singles seem to think that God’s primary plan for their current season involves figuring out their relationship status as quickly as possible, but this couldn’t be any more distracting from the truth. If you are spending your single season worrying about when, how, or if it will end, you are missing out on one of the most incredibly valuable sources of untapped potential in human existence.
Think I’m exaggerating??
Guess you’ll have to find out….
Is Self-Care compatible with Christian Death-to-Self? This question is especially important in a culture where self-care is preached as the solution to every problem and depression is still at an all time high. Are we just not doing enough “self-care”? Or could dying-to-self actually be the solution to life?
“Whoever wishes to come after me must deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me. For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.” – Matthew 16:24-25
Death to self –
Unappealing? Definitely (At first glance). Macabre? Maybe it can seem so from the outset. Outdated? Since when does the bible go out of date?
Don’t let fear of “death” stop you from finding this hidden secret you’ve been looking for in your quest for happiness.
Truly, truly I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit. – John 12:24
I saw a post called “Is self-care selfish?” the other day. Of course, the conclusion was “Absolutely not. You have to take care of yourself to take care of everyone else. You deserve this. You can’t pour from an empty cup. etc” and I agree with this statement, but it’s not that simple.
To truly answer this question we have to ask, what really qualifies as self-care? Have you ever considered the fact that true self-care might be something you don’t necessarily enjoy doing?
It is worth it to distinguish between healthy self-care and other pastimes we enjoy that we like to classify as self-care in order to justify doing them. These are the pastimes that make us ask the question “Is self-care selfish?” in the first place. Obviously, someone’s conscience is pricked, or the question wouldn’t even be out there.