I’ve often heard of the 4 “Pillars of Self-Care” (also called “Levels of the Self”/ “Aspects of Personhood” / “Facets of Wellness”) described as 4 legs on a table – you know, where if one of the legs is weak, the table is unstable? It’s an analogy I have loved and ascribed to for a long time, however, lately I have started to like to think of them more as passengers in a car… or maybe even more accurately, a 4 person tandem bicycle.
Goals are supposed to be a tool to help us align our actions with our priorities and make us make progress towards what matters to us. Sounds good right?
Well, then why do we so often fail at our goals?
Or better yet, when we succeed at them, why do they leave us dissatisfied?
If you are a type A Christian who wants to “do everything right” and yet goal setting seems to be causing more harm than good, then you are my people.