I guess experience makes me qualified to write about failure.
From where I sit, when I look at the grand scheme of all my plans, by all outward appearance at this moment in my life, I am one. I’ve worked for many years to learn all the S.M.A.R.T. things and do all the big tasks. I’ve figured out all the bullet points and all the check boxes. I’ve invented all the systems and implemented all the rewards. I’ve tapped into all the neural retraining and the capturing and replacing of thoughts and gone on and on about types of motivation… and, yet,
Goals are supposed to be a tool to help us align our actions with our priorities and make us make progress towards what matters to us. Sounds good right?
Well, then why do we so often fail at our goals?
Or better yet, when we succeed at them, why do they leave us dissatisfied?
If you are a type A Christian who wants to “do everything right” and yet goal setting seems to be causing more harm than good, then you are my people.
Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. ~ Matthew 11:29
Humility is so “unpopular”. It is literally the opposite of everything we believe to be good as a society right now: “stand up for yourself”, “don’t let anyone put you down”, “you are capable of anything”, etc. Even the most recent battle over “equality” calls itself “Pride”. This is not to say that recognizing your belovedness or having a healthy level of confidence is bad, but rather, grossly misunderstood.
It would be wonderful if we could help humility make a comeback.
Lord, give me a quiet heart that does not ask to understand, but confident steps forward in the dark guided by your hand. – Elizabeth Elliot
My word of the year for 2021 was “Silence” (which came hot on the heels of 2020’s, “Listening” – I guess God decided I didn’t get the memo the first time).
Needless to say, the concept of silence has become one of deep reflection for me for a while and I just now feel like I am barely scratching the surface. I’m almost sad 2021 is ending soon, but what better way to honor these two life-changing years on a life-changing lesson than to share a few of the things that I have learned.